North Texas Lifestylers

Axiom #1 The people in the relationship are more important than the relationship. Consent is about me: my body, my mind, and my choices. My consent is required to access the things that I own. You do not need my consent to act, because I do not own your body, your mind, or your choices. However, if your behavior crosses into my personal space, then you need my consent. If my romantic partner goes out and sleeps with a dozen random hookups, he may have broken an agreement, but he has not violated my consent. If he then has sex with me without telling me about his actions, he has violated my consent because he has deprived me of the ability to make an informed choice. My boundaries are the edges of me. What is my personal space? What is it that I alone own, and you must always have permission to access? This is somewhat personal, and we often don’t know where our boundaries are until they have been crossed. But I think you can roughly divide personal boundaries into three ...

The Relationship Bill of Rights You have the right, without shame, blame or guilt: In all intimate relationships: to be free from coercion, violence and intimidation to choose the level of involvement and intimacy you want to revoke consent to any form of intimacy at any time to be told the truth to say no to requests to hold and express differing points of view to feel all your emotions to feel and communicate your emotions and needs to set boundaries concerning your privacy needs to set clear limits on the obligations you will make to seek balance between what you give to the relationship and what is given back to you to know that your partner will work with you to resolve problems that arise to choose whether you want a monogamous or polyamorous relationship to grow and change to make mistakes to end a relationship In poly relationships: to decide how many partners you want to choose your own partners to have an equal say with each of your partners in de...

OUR DYNAMIC TRIO: Tink is Married to Chuck. Danny is her bfwb/np, only cause I can’t legally marry both. Both guys are completely STRAIGHT, and we live together as lifetime nesting partners. We’re a no drama, open, kitchen table style poly/swinging “Vee...” I’m in a relationship with both guys, but they are strictly just friends with each other. Us being poly doesn’t mean that you need to be! We are happy with what we have, and just looking to have some friendly, sexual fun with others. ***We are all autonomous, and any of us, together or separately, are looking to meet ladies and couples for coffee, drinks or dinner, or dancing or a combination date night and see where the chemistry takes us! Me and either one of my guys enjoy meeting couples for full swap fun. Would love the opportunity to meet other polycules or pods that are local as well! ***We aren’t into having any “heiarchal rules” that make for craziness and drama! Been there, done that, learned some hard less...

Things aren’t as easy the second time around, apparently...part 1 When I took my first step into the lifestyle, I was absolutely insecure, and terrified. My hubs and I were so far gone, I thought for sure it was inevitably over... and in one final attempt to get his attention, for him to be able to forgive himself for cheating years prior, I jumped. When I stepped foot into Collettes that night, almost 3 years ago, I was DONE. I couldn’t imagine another day in the life I was living, secluded as I was, and so lonely. When I finally couldn’t take another moment of trying to be so perfect, to please everyone and be the “Good Girl” I was raised to be, I jumped. No longer caring what anyone else thought, I had to find a way to find myself again so that I could simply breathe! So lost in the coulda, woulda, shoulda’s, I just couldn’t take it anymore. What good did it ever do anyway? What good was all the time spent in recovery ministry, and church, and in bible and step studies s...

Daddy, Please? What Daddy should do for his little Princess. 1. Help me brush my hair. 2. Help me pick out clothes and food. 3. Make me food sometimes, because I do for you ^_^ 4. Take bathies with me sometimes, and showers with me most of the time. 5. Hold my hand. 6. Call me my preferred words: little, good girl, princess, pixie, fairy, etc. 7. Give me treats when I'm good. -Snacks -Walks -Baths -Tea/Milkie/Juice -Massages -Kissies and huggies -Bednight stories -Anything to make me smile 8. Punish me when I'm bad -Spankings (but please don't rack up the number, do them as soon as I'm bad) -Sentences (like "I'm sorry I drank all the tea," for example, 20 times or so) 9. Praise me when I do good. No matter how small the good thing is. 10. Leave me little surprise notes or send me nice little texts when I'm gone. 11. Don't make threats. Punish me if I'm bad, but don't take away things or hurt me because you're mad. 12. Always do bed ...

Deciphering Little Moods Deciphering Little Moods Sometimes littles can get super confusing! They can be moody, and might not always be able to communicate exactly how they’re feeling. This is by no means a guide to every little, this is just based on my personal experience in littlespace. Even so, I hope this helps a little! A Happy Little… A happy little will smile and embrace their littlespace. This can manifest itself in using their little things(pacifiers, sippycups, bibs, bottles, diapers, etc…), giggling, babbling, being hyper, playing, laughing, and a number of other adorable and happy ways. A Sad Little… A sad little will not be smiley or hyper. A sad little may either completely abandon their littlespace, or require much more attention than normal. A sad little may eat more or less than normal, and have sporadic sleeping habits. Sad littles may not want to come out and talk about their problems, so it’s important to know their signs and pick up on them. To remedy a ...

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HOUSE PARTY ORIENTATION by TinkerBelle Swingers House Party Orientation When you’re dealing with a large group of people having sex with one another, there need to be swingers rules in place. These rules at swingers parties make everyone feel safe in the incredibly delicate emotional and physical situation they’re in, and also set the tone for the party. It might sound surprising, but without rules, swingers parties just aren't as magical as they're supposed to be.  Upon receiving a swinger house party invitation read it carefully, especially the bit about the RSVP date. As swinger house party is a private party, a house can only accommodate a limited number of swinging couples. So if you cannot make it, it is just polite to let the host know in advance so they can invite another couple to replace you this time round, and don’t cancel last minute unless it cannot be avoided. It is only a good gesture to arrive and leave the party as a couple unless prior arrange...